Friendships…I feel like I am no expert on them, but certainly have come to see the value in them since we have moved. I needed a friend and familiar surroundings boost, so I drove to Rochester and met some friends for coffee/tea, lunch, and supper. How good it was to catch up on their lives and see their faces and feel their warm embraces. I am looking forward to going back again so I can catch up with so many others I wanted to see.
As I am finding it takes time to make new friends. Everyone has plans and lives and other friendships and families and…
I have a group of college friends who are trying to schedule a week-end together and it seems challenging to schedule with family vacations and other commitments. I do so value these friends and would love to get together and see how God has worked in our lives over the last 20+ years. I trust God will work this one out for me as He sees fit.
Do we value friendships or just acquaintances? Do we value those friends who dig into our lives and try to help us be better people? “As iron sharpens iron so a friend sharpens the countenance of his friends.” (Proverbs 27:17). Do I diligently work at challenging others to be the best they can be? Am I careful who I spend my time with so that my friendships are with people who challenge me to be the best God has for me?
True friendships take time and energy. We must be careful not to spread ourselves too thin. Our jobs take time. Our families take time. Our spouses take time. We need to spend time with God. Do we prioritize correctly or are we off balance? There will be times that we spend too much time on one, but as long as we are aware of this and don’t let living off balance be our norm, it is acceptable. Do you know people who say, “Once I get ‘this’ done, everything will be better.” What happens? That one think turns into something else. I have found in my life there is always “one more thing.” Our friends could be the kind who take lots of time and energy and keep us off balance all the time. This is not a healthy friendship and should be handled with care and attention to how much time is spent.
Solomon reminds us how valuable friendship is. “Two are better than one…for if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm…and though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him, a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). A true friend is so valuable and helpful. They provide encouragement when we are down. They share in our joys. They comfort us in our sorrows. In this day of technology, we must remember that it should be a help to our friendships. Too often we see people with others, but on their phones with someone else. Be all present. When we are distracted, we cannot see the hurt someone has or the joy they have. It is hard to notice the little things when we are paying more attention to the screen if front of us than the real person in our presence.
Friendship has value. People need each other. The older I get the more I value friendships and am willing to drive across the state of Michigan in order to catch up with friends. Don’t get so busy. Be intentional in how you spend your time. “Two are better than one…”