I have been thinking about motherhood quite a bit lately. Mostly, because my role as Mom is changing and will change drastically in August as they all head off to college. I have loved having all of our girls home for the summer. It is so nice to have the house full. The messy kitchen means they are in it eating. The messy living room means they are relaxing after a hard day of work. The extra food I am making and all the desserts that get made and eaten means they are here eating what I make. The shouts from the other room, “Mom,” fill my heart because I know that I am needed for a wise word or a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on or cry on. I love these days, but I know they are fleeting.
I try to be home when they are home.
I was challenged last week as I listened to a pod cast to be intentional. Not one to step away from a challenge, I realized that I could be more intentional than I had already been. The speaker talked about spending time with his adult children doing a study with them. I realized the material was important, but the time spent being intentional and growing together was actually more important. It shows my girls how important growth is. It shows them that I don’t want to be stagnant but want to keep growing in my walk with the Lord. It also shows them that I would rather do it with no one else but them.
I found a book that was a quick read with a good message. Short chapters that could be quickly read when we happened to all be together for a few minutes. Easy chapters to digest with a challenging message. I have read books to my kids since they were little. It was always something we looked forward to and often they would want me to read more. Mostly, because we were sharing an experience, picturing a story in our minds together, enjoying the power of the written word TOGHETHER.
We read our first few chapters on the beach in Grand Haven as we ate strawberry pie and watched the sunset. We didn’t share too much tantalizing conversation. We did share an experience. We shared a memory. We shared many laughs that we rehearse together and laugh again.
So as these days of summer are way too short and all of my sweet girls are set to leave to go to college in a few short weeks, I want to be all here. I want to be intentional. I want them to look at home as a place they can’t wait to get to that fills them with love and laughter and lots of good food. I want them to remember all the little things I taught them, because they build into big lessons that build their character.
A house is a place, but home is the people and the love that fills that place.
I challenge you, Moms, fill your home with lots of good food. Be there when your kids are there. Be ready to listen. Look for ways to be intentional and fill their hearts with love. Today builds on the past. If yesterday wasn’t great, make today better. Be intentional about tomorrow. You will have no regrets.
Proverbs 31:27 “She looks well to the ways of her household…”