Stop Talking

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We have all been asked the question, “If you could spend one hour with a famous person, who would you spend that hour with?”  Maybe it’s not a famous person we want to spend that hour with, maybe it is someone who has passed away before us.  Why is it we want to spend an hour with that person?  I am sure there are many answers to this question, but it all boils down to one main thought.

 

RESPECT.

 

The person we have imagined in our heads that we want to spend that hour with is not usually a crook, a liar, mean, or evil.  Rather, they have gained a level of respect in our eyes because of who they are.  To be able to be in the presence of someone who has done something great usually challenges us to be better people ourselves.

 

No one is clamoring to hear what the homeless drunk on the street has to say, rather people clamor to hear a well-known politician or a wise pastor.

 

Why?

 

Most people have a general desire to succeed, to accomplish something.  Depending on what they hold valuable will often times coincide with what they spend their time invested in.   Many times in life we need a chance to refocus our lives, our thoughts, or our energies.

 

Solomon addresses this in Proverbs 8:32-36.

And now, O sons, LISTEN to me: blessed are those who keep my ways.

HEAR instruction and be wise, and do not neglect it.

Blessed is the one who LISTENS to me, WATHCING DAILY at my gates, WAITING beside my doors

For whoever finds me finds life and obtains favor from the Lord,

But he who fails to find me injures himself; all who hate me love death.

 

There are some keys here that many would find helpful in their lives if they would prioritize their lives according to these principles rather than the ones they think are important.

 

  1. Stop talking

 

The first key to listening is not talking.  We have all met people who like to hear themselves talk.  When we spend any length of time with them there is nothing we need to worry about saying, they will fill the empty space with their words.  When we talk, we are poor listeners.

 

  1. Start listening

 

Three times we are instructed to listen.  When we listen there are some very positive results.

  • When we listen, we learn how to keep God’s ways
  • When we listen to the right instruction, we become wise.  If we listen to evil, we will not become wise.
  1. Watch daily

 

Habits.  The people we are show up in our daily habits.  Just like we are what we eat, we are also the product of our habits.  What we do daily?  God wants us to meet with him daily.  As we meet daily with God earnestly seeking Him in His Word and through prayer, we become wise.  The word watch in the Hebrew means to be alert and sleepless.  Daily literally means from sunrise to sunset.  The idea here is not a quick check the box kind of meeting with God, rather it is a meeting where we yearn to know Him.  We long for His presence in our lives.  We begin our day devoting time and our undivided attention to reading His Word, praying/talking to God, and inviting Him to be part of every aspect of our lives.  Seeking to have our lives be transformed because of our relationship with Him.  We become so devoted our very words are easily influenced by these daily encounters with God.  Our actions are guided by our daily meeting with God.  Nothing escapes our lips or our hearts without first being checked through the filter of the wisdom that God imparts.

 

  1. Waiting

 

God is not the Jeanie in the bottle waiting for us to rub the bottle and make a wish.  Rather, God asks us to wait.  In the waiting, we show our faith.  In the waiting, as we gain faith we begin to experience peace.  The literal Hebrew meaning for wait also means to protect.  When we gain wisdom, it is our responsibility to protect the wisdom we have.  The only way to protect it is to continue to meet daily with God making sure our thoughts, actions, and habits are lining up with the truth of Scripture.

 

The results are seen in the last two verses.  If we find wisdom we obtain favor.  If we fail to find wisdom, we are injured or experience death.

 

Let us all yearn to be spending time with God, yearning to be wise through a relationship with Him.  The time with Him is not meant as a box to be checked, but a relationship to be cultivated and depended on.  What happens in this time is evidenced by the fruit of our lives.  What we talk about and what our desires in life truly are.  The greater our respect for God the greater our “fear of the Lord” (Proverbs 8:13), the more our lives will be flourishing with the fruit of wisdom.

 

The time spent listening, watching, and waiting is evidenced by the fruit in our lives.

A Small Investment

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We all are drawn to things that please us.  The beauty of a sunrise.  The aroma of a bouquet of beautiful roses.  The taste of an exquisite meal. The joy of a treasured friendship/relationship.  If we only spend our time focusing on things that please us, we would live a very self-centered world.  In the quest for pleasing ourselves, there usually lays the carnage of people behind us that were in the way of or had to be used so we could get what we thought would please us.

I recently watched a secular video about how to improve your life.  As I listened to the video, I was amazed by how many Biblical principles were included in the talk without using the Bible as a reference.  God’s Word has been with us for thousands of years and the principles that God wants us to live by have been around for even longer.  So why do so many want change in their lives, yet they do not want to put into practice the things that will bring about that change.  As a general rule, we are seeking immediate gratification without thought of the long term effects.

If we choose to eat dessert or overindulge in a particular item at dinner, there may be no immediate results but over time those additional calories add up to extra pounds that were much easier to put on than they are to take off.  So why not exercise the pain of discipline now rather than having to deal with the pain of regret later?   We generally do not choose this route of avoiding dessert because we want to please ourselves right now.

God has given us many verses in the Bible that direct our attention towards how we are to live.  These directives are not given by God so He can laugh at us and watch us suffer.  Rather He wants us to live lives that are not just pleasing to Him, but also will produce for us good fruit.

We could use the analogy of a farmer who gets what he sows.  What about the principle of investing or saving now while denying ourselves a short term pleasure for a greater long term dividend.  The principle of pruning a rose bush of all the dead growth produces more beautiful roses in the end.

It is the little investment now that reaps huge benefits later in life. When faced with a choice, no matter how small there will be a consequence to that choice.  When we say yes to one thing we are saying no to something else.

“Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who deal truthfully are His delight.”  (Proverbs 12:22)

If what we say is not truthful or partially truthful, we set ourselves up for mistrust in our relationships.  Trust is easy to lose, but very hard to regain.  The lies may be “small white lies” but something so small can generate large levels of mistrust in our relationships.

“But He gives more grace.  Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’” (James 4:6)

What kind of person do we want to be around? One who is proud or one who is humble?  Yet, we make choices each day that support our pride or our humility.  They may seem like small choices, but they do add up.  As they add up, our reputation will precede us as a proud or humble person.

“Love one another with brotherly affection.  Outdo one another in showing honor.” (Romans 12:10)

I am always up for a little bit of competition.  Have we ever thought about loving and honoring others so much it becomes a bit of a competition?  It changes who we think about.  It changes our focus from what we get to what we can give.  We all appreciate when we are shown honor and respect.  Yet, why do we not do the same thing for others.  Do we look for ways to show honor to every person we meet.  Jesus did not order the disciples to wash His feet, rather He outdid the disciples by showing them honor and washing their feet.  Those that are looking to compete in the honor category do not demand to be served, rather they look for ways to serve.

The list could go on, but I think we get the point.  What we invest will in the end not just benefit those that are around us, it will also benefit us.  God gives grace to the humble not the proud.

If we say yes to something we say no to something else.  If we embrace the pain of discipline now we will enjoy being free of the pain of regret later.

“He has shown you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” (Micah 6:8)

Tears of Joy

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This summer two of our daughters join the ranks of many who will spend their summer working at camp.  They were home from college for a month, but will be gone for the remainder of the summer with enough time to come home, go on a family vacation, and get packed back up to head back to Cedarville University.

Our oldest daughter is spending the summer working at Lake Ann as a counselor-where Dave went went to camp when he was growing up, and our middle daughter is working at Scioto Hills-the same camp I went to and worked at when I was growing up, and where my parents are currently volunteering.  What treasured memories I have from camp.  God works in great ways at camp all while making wonderful memories and making great friends.

As excited for them as I am that they are so willingly serving the Lord this way, I still hate to say good-bye.  I know they will be back and I know I will see them both during the time they are gone, but I still hate to say good-bye.

I tell them and remind myself at the same time, “They are growing up and becoming the young ladies I raised them to be.”  Growth brings change and tears.  Growth and maturity also come with a price tag.

I am reminded of a tearful good-bye in Acts 20:36, 37 “And when he had said these things, he knelt down and prayed with them all.  And there was much weeping on the part of all; they embraced Paul and kissed him.”  The Apostle Paul was moved with emotion to the point of tears when he said good-bye to those he ministered to in Ephesus.  Paul spent hours pouring his life into many people during his life after his conversion.  After that much time investing and loving, there is a sense of loss during the good-bye.  This feeling of loss over the separation of distance shows that a true heart connection is made.  A valuable relationship is formed.  A treasured bond that is inseparable despite the miles was established.  Despite the heartache and the sadness with the good-bye, the beauty of the relationship is seen with those tears.

As I miss my girls this summer and cry over our separation of distance, I also have a sense of pride over what they are doing with their lives.  I see them carrying on the things that are important in life: loving Jesus and loving people. No matter the sacrifice, no matter the loneliness, no matter the challenges in the end this is what matters.

Right before Paul said his tearful good-by to the people of Ephesus in Acts 20, he reminded the people, “…It is more blessed to give than to receive.” (Acts 20:35).  Paul willingly gave all that He had to serve our Lord: to love Jesus and love people.  He lived out this verse.

As I miss my girls this summer, I know that they are right where God wants them, doing the work of the ministry.  There is much joy in my sadness and to be honest the sadness shows the beauty of the relationship.  So as we shed tears on behalf of those we miss, don’t be embarrassed by the tears, rather relish them and treasure them for they show how valuable that relationship really is.