“She looks well to the way of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.”
Attention to detail. One Sunday Steve Jobs called Vic Gundotra, the man behind Google +. Vic was at church and did not answer his phone. He called Steve back immediately knowing a phone call on a Sunday from Steve was an urgent matter. Steve told Vic that the reason for his call was that he did not like the shade of yellow in the second “O” on the Google page. This may seem unimportant to us, but the fact that the man who raised Apple to its status as the world premier technology company means it must be important to pay attention to details, even the shade of a yellow “O” on a Sunday.
Attention to detail. Our virtuous woman looks well. This word has many nuances. It means to lean forward, peer into the distance, observe, espy, or a watchman. Espy means to see or notice something. There is no time to be idle if we are paying attention to the details of our families. There are six different areas that we as Moms and woman should focus on. I mention our children in each of these, but our husbands need the same kind of attention in their lives so we can also meet their needs. This would be another lesson – looking to the needs of our husbands. The point of this lesson is we must pay attention to the details in the lives of those we love.
- Attention to detail. Our children and those around us need constant spiritual training and teaching. As we are preparing our children for life, we must be observant to the spiritual needs they have and teach to those needs. “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” (Deuteronomy 6:7). Each of our children has different spiritual needs and battles. As we observe their behavior, we must have open lines of communication with them so we can provide teaching and training to correct a behavior. If we do not closely observe their hearts and their actions, they will have character flaws that are easily trained out of them at an early age, but more difficult the older they get. Since Delaney was my baby I had a tendency to spoil her. Ask my other two daughters and they will readily agree. I began to notice things in her character that would not serve her well in the days to come. Spiritual teaching and training have taken place since then. In order to notice these flaws in our children we must be paying close attention to the details in their character in order to teach Scriptural truths that are applicable to their lives.
- Attention to detail. Physical needs are also extremely important. They need food, clothes, and shelter, and also attention to their health. It is our job to provide for their food needs and be sure that when they are hungry we have meals and appropriate snacks for them. As the mother of daughters, attention to dress is challenging. If I do not approve of an outfit I will not buy it or allow any of my daughters to buy it. If they have bought something that I do not approve of when they are not with me, I will buy them something else to replace the item so they understand how important modesty is in our dress.
- Attention to detail. I also try to provide an atmosphere in our home that is conducive for life. Home needs to be a safe place. So attention to this is also important. What do they need in order to feel safe and secure in our home. In relation to their health, if they seem to be getting worn down or beginning to get sick, I help them adjust their schedule so they can get extra rest and whatever else they may need to prevent illness.
- Attention to detail. Emotional needs vary from day-to-day. The more in tune to our children we are, the better we will do at anticipating the emotional needs they may have. Some days they may need more words of encouragement than normal. I must come up with creative ways to provide them this support. Other days, they need to pull themselves up by their boot straps and overcome the emotional battle they are dealing with. If I am not paying attention to these details and the needs in their lives I will miss a valuable opportunity to teach, train, or provide encouragement. Sometimes we must get over ourselves and our needs to better assist our children in theirs. The investment and sacrifice is always worth it.
- Attention to detail. There are also mental needs as they learn various things in school. We must be students of our children and understand our child’s learning style in order to help them learn what they need for life.
- Attention to detail. There is no time for idleness and laziness if we are “looking well to the ways of our household.” Someone always has a need and we must be instrumental in meeting that need, even if it is teaching our children how to meet their own needs and praying them through the process. We must also be examples in this arena. Children must learn how to cope with various situations that come up. By paying attention to our own lives, we can then teach our children how we cope. We must be purposeful and prayerful in our attention to detail.
- What must you do in order to pay attention to the details in your family’s life?
- Sometimes we get so caught up in meeting our own needs, we cannot even meet the needs of others. Read Matthew 10:8 and Acts 20:35. What conclusion should we draw here?
- Read Philippians 2:3-8. Where should we get this selfless attitude?
- If we are always “looking out for the interests of others,” should we not ever take time for ourselves? Think of some Biblical examples that demonstrate how important our own well-being is.