“She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.”
Many years ago we went into a home goods store that was going out of business. We were able to find a comforter, accessory pillows, and sheets that matched for our bed. We brought the set home and decided to paint our bedroom too. Once everything was completed and the bed made I told Dave, “I feel like a queen.” The bedding set was a rich red with gold designs. Not only did we have a beautiful new bedroom, but we also were able to redo it on a very thrifty budget. I felt doubly good.
As we have looked at these verses in Proverbs 31, we can see the diligence, hard work, and compassion for others. This lady is very people oriented. The verse shows us that she also takes care of herself, and puts a priority on her personal appearance and the appearance of her home. This is not her major focus, but it is important enough to be a priority. This lady pays attention to the complete picture by caring for her family, those in need, herself, and her home.
The bed coverings can also be translated as tapestries. These are fine woven cloths that are elegant, costly, and beautiful. The tapestries would be used to decorate her home. The bed coverings were also made of these tapestries and show us that she cared for not just the appearance of her home that others would see, but also her most intimate dwelling, her bedroom. This gives us another glimpse into what was important to her. She made sure that the bed she shared with her husband would be pleasing and inviting. Although she was busy with caring for her family and looking out for the needs of others, she also placed an emphasis on caring for her husband and making him an important part of her busy schedule.
As wives, myself included, we get so busy with the cares of this world we often take for granted our husbands and the needs they have. We often spend so much energy throughout the day we forget about our husbands and end up taking them for granted. If we watch a new couple together, they spend every possible minute together. They enjoy just being together. As our marriages mature and grow, we allow the cares of this world to get in the way of what was once our number one priority. Balance is certainly key, but this fine Proverbs lady manages to continue to place emphasis on her husband and his needs.
The last part of this verse looks at the outward appearance. As young ladies we spent time making sure we looked attractive and appealing, especially when we were dating our husbands. As time goes by and the daily routine bogs us down, we forget how important our appearance is. Our clothes go out of style and our look is still that of days gone by. It is difficult to remain stylish on a limited budget, but this lady manages to make herself clothing of fine linen and purple. She took the time for her physical appearance and remained stylish and well-groomed. Some Christian ladies get the idea that in order to be godly they must also be dowdy. Not this lady. She wears fine clothing that is stylish and well kept. I frequent Salvation Army a few times a year. There are treasures to be found at resale shops if we take the time to look. One of these trips found me looking for a new purse and I happened upon a Kate Spade purse for $8. Normally this purse would have cost about $200 so I stumbled upon a deal. We must not be discouraged when we attempt to stay stylish on a budget. It does take time and effort, but the trade-off is worth it.
Ladies, don’t be afraid to be stylish. However, we must be careful that we stay within our budget so we do not spend our grocery money on the latest fashions. This verse in Proverbs comes after many others that focus on the care of her family and others in need. Stay balanced and pay attention to detail.
- What is your definition of attractive? What do you do to make sure you remain attractive?
- How well do you balance the needs of your home and your own personal needs? Is getting a manicure more important than paying the electric bill?
- What does your husband stress as important in your home? My husband likes a home that is not cluttered with everything put away. I do try to keep the house picked up and the clutter to a minimum.
- Do you pay attention to the detail and beauty of your bedroom? Do you see this as important?
- What could you do to make your appearance, your home, or your bedroom what God intended it to be? It may be you are too focused on these things. It may be these things do not get enough focus.